Be happy

It's weird how I can be in a space to want to write something, yet feel like I have no ideas or anything to say.  This is one of those moments.  So I'm typing and hoping some brilliant idea will come blasting out of my fingers and onto this screen....and NOW......ok.....NOW.....still nothing.  I usually try to write about what's on my heart; what feels heavy, or stressful, or concerning.

What if, at present, I wasn't feeling super stressed, or bothered, or worried? Would that be wrong? Bad? Unheard of?  In today's world as a parent, a friend, a contributing member of society, etc.,  is it ok to actually be and feel.....dare I say it....happy? It seems like there are so many things wrong everywhere, that it almost puts me in a place of self guilt to acknowledge that maybe I'm doing ok right now.  Is everything perfect? Uh, hek no.  Is money tight? Always. House clean? Hah!  I have a pile of dishes in the sink that need to be put in the dishwasher (which is full of clean dishes to be put away), there's a leak in the sink, which is why all those dishes were pulled out from under the sink and now IN said sink.  There's laundry to be done, therapy notes to be completed, bills to get paid, and on and ON (thank God my sweet husband has the precious children in bed or I would not be able to even think a real thought, let alone type anything).  Right now, though, none of thosebe above tasks seem to feel imminent.  What perhaps feels more important is recognizing how many great people and things there are in my life.

"Life's too blessed to be stressed." I'm not sure who said that, but even right now, I'd kind of like to smack him or her just a little.  I get it and it's exactly what I'm writing about right now.  There will always be tasks, and chores, and rough spots, and bad days, and disagreements.  It's life unfortunately.  Many of us are also fortunate enough to have everything we really need to survive (especially if you're reading this right now), and more so, most of us have more than we need, and a lot of what we want! That's good!!!!

I've always loved HGTV and a show on there called House Hunters.  It drives my husband and parents crazy every (very occasional) time they catch me watching it.  I like seeing what different houses look like, get over it! Now, HGTV has came up with the show Tiny House Hunters, which I find even more interesting.  On the trailer/preview for the show one of the couples looking for a tiny house makes the remark, 'we would rather spend our money on experiencing places and people, than on a big expensive house' (or something like that).  It kind of hit me how amazing that is.  I'm not saying we shouldn't have big or cool or fancy houses, everyone is entitled to living in and how the way they choose.  But the idea about focusing more on life's experiences and the people in it, is what really rang true to me.  Sometimes we spend so much energy and effort keeping up with the Jones' (or Kardashian's), that we lose sight of what really matters. We get focused on hurts, how we've been wronged or mistreated, the mistakes people have made.  We forget that we are all human and screw up; often.  The good, the happy, and even the ok get pushed aside.

As always, I struggle with when I've said enough, or if I need to beat a dead horse and provide 500 examples of the point I'm trying to make.  I'm going to hope and believe that if you've somehow stumbled upon reading this, that: YOU GET IT.  Yay you! Up top! Gold star! So,  I just want to challenge you to find someone or something in your life that is good, or positive, or helps you feel happy.  Be grateful! Focus on those good people and things.  Thank them for liking or loving you, even when you are whiney or hurtful or a Debbie Downer.   Go be happy, and know, you don't have to feel bad about it.